BED WETTING WETTERS

BED WETTING

Councils that fail to reach climate change targets need to be shown how act sustainably

COUNCILLORS: Robert Standley (Leader) and Chris Hardy (Chairman) are the effective leaders of WC and the controlling minds - along with their executive officers. What is their vision for a fair society that is climate friendly? Do they have one? It does not look like it to us. Why is it that these members can be elected year after year without fresh faces coming into the picture to at least make a stab at getting things right. Fresh faces means new ideas, where the old ideas do not seem to be working.

COUNCILLORS: Ann Newton, Johanna Howell and Susan Stedman are the current planning committee heads in Wealden land. They are directly responsible for ensuring that climate change is tackled and that affordable housing is built for young families so as to avoid financial slavery. Along with their planning officers, they should be directing that affordable housing is built with sustainable features for the Circular Economy that the rest of the world is striving for. Of course Brexit is about to cause a major hiccup in the ability of our academics and not-for-profits to compete for research funds, but that does not mean we cannot build a United Kingdom to prevent us sliding back into the fossil-fuelled dark ages and environmental catastrophe.

In the main, Councils in the United Kingdom believe that they are a law unto themselves. This is because power corrupts. Instead of embracing statute that is inconvenient to their local agendas, they look for ways to get around requirements that Whitehall has laid down as targets, thereby defeating the law of the land of Her Majesty's Parliament.

Every now and again caselaw is made in the Courts that guides councils as to their anti-social behaviour, but still this has little effect in the back passages of your local authority. For it is in the darker corridors of power that foul deeds are hatched and perpetuated, not in public where it would be detected and shunned.

BED WETTING

On the web you will find conflicting advice about bedwetting. You may then want to read up on the subject and take a common sense approach. In our view if your child suffers from persistent bed wetting then it should not be ignored. Something is probably wrong.

Having tried a few experiments and reasoning with your subject, if you find that the problems persist you may have to take a harder line. In the case of councils that refuse to carry out their functions in the interests of the people - and not themselves - then like a puppy that needs to be house trained you may need to rub their noses in their own pooh. Not surprisingly, puppies and councils do not like smelling their own urine and faeces. At this point they wish they'd done the right thing and not tried to bury the truth. It is far easier to admit a mistake right away. It is also climate friendly to admit mistakes, because ongoing cost equals energy expended, hence global warming from the increased CO2.

The real problem is a human one, the officers or councillors either making or helping to perpetuate a mistake, may benefit financially from nursing what is a lie. For example they may fear being sacked for incompetence - and unfortunately - in the worst cases this is probably inevitable.

You can imagine then the lengths that some devious civil servants will go to to stay employed and in receipt of wages that they know they are not really entitled to. This is a criminal offence, where misfeasance in public office is compounded, so becomes malfeasance. It is also an offence under Section 4 of the Fraud Act 2006, where the officers and members concerned are effectively defrauding the tax or rate payer - or obtaining a pecuniary advantage by deception (as per the Theft Act). Proceeds of crime should of course be confiscated to replenish the public purse. A failure to report a crime is a crime in itself and a failure to investigate a crime is also a crime in itself.

We are though dealing with quangos and masons, meaning that the criminals in the system are protected by others in the system. If this sounds like organised crime to you, you are not alone.

CAUSES OF BEDWETTING

There's usually no obvious reason why children wet the bed, but it could be because your child:

* produces more wee than their bladder can cope with

* has an overactive bladder, meaning it can only hold a small amount of wee

* is a very deep sleeper, so they don't react to the signals telling their brain their bladder is full

Bedwetting often runs in families.

Constipation is often linked with bedwetting. Sometimes treating constipation is all that's needed to treat bedwetting.

Occasionally, bedwetting is triggered by emotional distress, such as being bullied or moving to a new school.

In rare cases, bedwetting may be a symptom of an underlying health condition, such as type 1 diabetes.

HOME TREATMENT TIPS

It's best to try a few measures yourself first, such as:

* not giving your child anything to drink in the hour before bedtime

*making sure they have a wee before going to sleep

You could also consider buying a bedwetting alarm.

Reassure your child. It's important for them to know they haven't done anything wrong, and it will get better.

Don't tell them off or punish them for wetting the bed as this won't help and could make the problem worse.

TREATMENT MISTAKES

Waking the child at night

This is the most common mistake. By waking up your child at night, the responsibility for staying dry is transferred from the child to the parents. Children empty their bladder regardless of pressure within the bladder. There is no learning process, and children become accustomed to emptying their bladder during sleep. It is important for the child to take responsibility for staying dry.

Punishment

Jack, a 7 year old, returns home from the playground crying bitterly. In an attempt to increase her son’s motivation to stop bedwetting, her mother talks to Jack in earshot of other children in the playground, and asks him if he thinks normal children still wet the bed. Jack is both embarrassed and miserable.

Many parents have good intentions, but they make the mistake of punishing or embarrassing a bedwetter thinking that it will lead to modified behavior. Parents need to know that the primary sufferer is the child. Urination during sleep is an unconscious activity and is not done on purpose. When a parent shows disappointment or punishes the child, it only aggravates the problem.

Forcing a child to wash his wet bedding and pajamas

The “logic” behind this idea is that the child should be responsible for his deeds. If he wet the bed he has to wash his wet bedding and pajamas. This way he will learn to avoid urination while he is asleep. Unfortunately, this “advice” is being given by professionals that assume that the child is not making enough effort. The child is humiliated and frustrated. He does not wet the bed on purpose and feels that nobody understands. He is punished for something which is not his fault. This also increases the feeling that he disappoints his parents. It is needless to say that this is not going to solve the bedwetting problem but might create tension between the child and his parents.

Overprotective parents

Another way of dealing with bedwetting is by overprotection. Instead of helping the child to cope with the problem, the parents wrap him with layers of protection. They feel guilty that their child is suffering from bedwetting and they don’t allow him to deal with the problem. The parents take responsibility, sometimes they deny the problem’s existence, or they are scared of offending their child. In the clinic, when I refer to the child, they answer instead of him.
Occasionally we find overprotection with children that suffered at an early age from a severe medical problem. Although the child has fully recovered, the parents feel the need to protect and compensate him. We also find that this behavior is more common among parents that had a child after many years of infertility.

Overprotection is not a solution because it is important that the child take responsibility for his actions and his own body.

Ignoring the problem

Some parents completely ignore the problem’s existence hoping it will just go away. They ignore their child’s distress. The child needs his parents’ support and understanding. When the parents ignore the problem, the child feels that he has no one to rely on.

Comparison between siblings

Sometime, a younger sibling is already dry. Obviously an older child suffering from bedwetting feels embarrassed, jealous and even shameful about the situation. A common mistake is comparison between siblings. The parents assume that if the 5 years old younger brother has already outgrown bedwetting, it means that the 8 years old sibling is wetting the bed on purpose. The older child is accused of being lazy or apathetic: “If your younger brother could do it, you can do it too”. This parent’s attitude leads to the child’s frustration and helplessness. This comparison adds a great deal of pressure and will aggravate the problem. It can also cause emotional problems.

We've all been there. Think back if you can when you may have wet the bed. Remember how awkward you felt when you woke up and discovered the damp patch. How you tried to pretend it had not happened - and then one day all of that went away as your night stamina improved. The writer had superb parents. He cannot remember being scolded, but can remember seeing the stained sheets hanging out to dry. He can also remember as a child when another member of the family was having difficulty when there were more stained sheets on the washing line. But, the problems were resolved without resorting to any of the punishment methods above.

LINKS

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/bedwetting/

https://www.bedwettingtherapy.com/

FLUSHED WITH SUCCESS - We imagine that Wealden would have been overjoyed in duping the High Court into making an Order that demanded removal of toilet facilities from their long-term adversary's home, condemning him to defecate in the old fashioned way - and remarkable is it not how well an animal can adapt and build from sheer determination until it is time to reveal the truth and his gleaming new urinals. The building has toilets re-fitted of course thanks to Dame Butler-Sloss and the occupiers rejoice with each pull of the handle, at the resourcefulness of this underdog when the chips were down. The frivolity at Wealden's offices was short lived when the Health & Safety Executive chimed in to spend a penny or two. From that point on Wealden have been bogged down with the publication of what they had done - and permanent skidmarks in the underpants of their hall of shame. No amount of toilet tissue can ever wipe the brown from this council's back passages.

Don't forget your Council's appalling Human Rights record. The above story is true and fairly recent. If your officers don't start to behave themselves, you, the members will have to potty-train them. They must start telling the truth to committees and doing something about the tragedy that is climate change. If you sort that out for us, we'll take care of feeding the world.

POTTY TRAINING - Using a potty may be a new skill for your planning team to learn. It's best to take it slowly and go at your candidates pace, about the same pace as a child should do the trick. Being patient with them will help them get it right, even if they sometimes feel frustrated. They should be taught that every person is entitled to a toilet no matter how much their team are out to get any challenging member of the public - and yes we know how irritating it is to be caught out - and yes of course that makes you hate that member of the public more - so that you try another dirty trick. So, if you are going to plan a vendetta, be sure that you don't get caught with your trousers down. Bury your target good and proper - or he or she may come back to haunt you with the inconvenient truth and reveal what you did and why you did it. In the words of Jim Carrey in Liar, Liar: "The truth will set you free"

Nelson Kruschandl - Potty Trainer

If having read this you still feel the urge to continue your vendetta against Mr Kruschandl or any other member of the public for showing your council the error of its ways, you should probably tender your resignation. By sharing his experiences with your Council through us, the victim is doing you a good turn and hoping that this gentle method of persuasion will help you to weedle out the culprits and put in place a more effective administration - for the good of the district.

By way of a learning exercise it is well worth reading about the history of the Generating Works at Herstmonceux in 1986/7 through 1997 to 2018.

The whole sorry affair was begun by George Morham White, Richard Mercer and Thomas Hoy who gave evidence to Inspector Raymond Dannreuther at a public inquiry. These officers denied that the building was a historic asset in 1987. The deception was continued by Douglas Moss, Ian Kay, Christine Nuttall, David Phillips and Victorio Scarpa into the year 2000 and the deception is maintained today by Charles Lant, Trevor Scott and others yet to be identified. We do though live in hope that this Council and the victim will eventually come to an understanding - rather than battle it out for another 30 years.

HOUSE TRAINING COUNCILS - Making councils obey the law of the land is incredibly difficult where institutionalized discrimination is rife and there are too many vested interests for them to be able to do the right thing. We need then to look at how we train animals not to foul our houses, for guidance on how to treat officers and members that are well versed in controlling development to suit their pockets, rather than the pocket of all those young families that cannot afford to live.

NPPF - According to the National Planning Policy Framework document, all local authorities are required to identify and earmark land for affordable housing. There is also a presumption that climate change targets will be met as per the Climate Change Act 2008, a United Nations target to reduce global warming.

This requires a good deal of forward planning and the making of hard decisions as to land use, that unfortunately, corrupt councils will find impossible to achieve without upsetting their present cozy relationships with favoured developers and Parish Council ties. Wealden's solution was to invite, rather than tell, landowners what land is suitable for affordable housing.

CHURCH ROAD HERSTMONCEUX - What a lovely house. But, and this is a big but, where are the sustainable energy features and is this affordable?

Another missed opportunity in a long list of unfortunate consents. We wonder what the incentive was to allow this development to proceed in the face of a housing shortage for young families on low wages. Susan Stedman was the chair of the committee that either approved or should have moderated on this permission. Have you seen any affordable housing being built in your area?

Wealden are talking the talk, but not walking the talk. This is a house in Church Street near the village of Herstmonceux that was still being built in December 2017. Next door there is a similar large house also new-build and also devoid of any micro generation features. It appears that this council are hell bent on building more of the same that got us into the climate change mess.

But listen to this: they are at the same time stopping Herstmonceux (Virtual) Museum from adding micro generation and other passive energy harvesting features such that climate change targets can be met. Not only are this council doing it wrong, but they are doing it all wrong! Johanna Howell, Ann Newton and Susan Stedman are the chair persons of the planning committee at Wealden District Council. Having accepted these positions of trust they should be making sure that planning officers are insisting on climate change features for new builds and that there is a balance of affordable housing that will ensure a sustainable society.

THIS SITE CONTAINS MANY EXAMPLES OF WEALDEN D C'S UNREASONABLE BEHAVIOUR - With thanks to Action Groups across the country for the supply of real case history and supporting documents. *THAT THE PUBLIC MAY KNOW*

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